A Much Nicer Way to Say What I Was Thinking
Shut … the … hell … up! That’s what caregivers would like to say. No not say, scream, when family members drop by for a short visit and begin to offer comments like this: “She looks fine to me. Why do...
View ArticleThe Agony of Relief
For seven years I was his constant companion. The one he railed against and accused of trying to poison him. The one he insisted was his best friend on the good days when he was lucid. “Without her I’d...
View ArticleDo Not Believe All The Things You Tell Yourself At Night
I know the voice of doubt. It comes in the night to question and criticize. It tells us we are not good enough or smart enough to do this. It may come as a whisper or scream unceasingly. Either way it...
View ArticleHolding Tight When They Are At Their Worst
Caregivers, you are home to the ones in your care. The place where they are loved regardless of their behavior. For most of them you are the only one keeping them safe from themselves. You are the...
View ArticleOut of Order!
Wouldn’t it be nice to do just that? I know most of you can’t but it’s a wonderful thought, isn’t it? When I saw this print I smiled. Not only at the sentiment but at the determined look on the duck’s...
View ArticleCaring Takes Courage
Caring takes courage. The courage to open your home and heart to what is to come. The courage to advocate fiercely for those in your care. The courage to know the day may come when you will hear the...
View ArticleNO!
NO! Two letters that exude tremendous power. It’s easy to say and has a huge impact. It soon becomes a favorite word for people in our care. It’s time to eat. Are you hungry? No. It’s time for bed. You...
View ArticleRemembering Rodger
Rodger Carducci July 26, 1926 – July 26, 2009 A year ago today I celebrated with family friends the release of Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver. The day was one of joy mixed with sadness as were...
View ArticleGiveaway for Caregivers
Free to Followers of The Imperfect Caregiver (US Residents Only) Caregivers need all the support they can get. One way to increase awareness is to show the world how many of us there are, including...
View ArticleCaregifted Offers Respite for Longtime Caregivers!
http://www.caregifted.org/ Poet wins $500,000 grant, spends entire sum on vacations for caregivers of the severely disabled byJen Hayden Heather McHugh creates beauty beyond words. In 2009, Seattle...
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